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One of the worst plights on modern society is feminism. I know, feminism kept women from being slaves and blah, blah, blah. How could I oppose such a benefit to an enlightened modern age? Because it hurts both men and women, and most of its claims are untrue.
1. There is no wage gap.
When you account for hours worked, degree, experience, job title, and risk the wage gap disappears to less than the statistical significance. Of course, those five variables are the major decision making process when it comes to wage. Women are more likely to choose non-cash compensations, work less hours, take more time off for children, whereas husbands will actually work an extra 20 minutes per child, women choose less highly paying jobs, non-STEM degrees, and lower risk. 93% of on the job deaths are men. Even when women choose high paying jobs, they are more likely to choose the lowest paid version of it. Neurosurgeons are 90% men—the highest paid, longest trained physician. Women more frequently go into three specialties: OB-GYN, Pediatrics, and general practice, the least technical, lowest paid physicians. If there were a wage gap companies would make a killing paying women $0.77 on the dollar for the same work. The simple fact is women voluntarily choose family. I’m glad they do. Families would be in serious trouble without moms, and dads can’t replace moms. But don’t blame the market or society for this trend.
Women are not only safest in marriage, but benefit equally to men, just in different ways. They are happiest in marriage, and also most sexually fulfilled. Sorry, Sitcom Dad.
Rapists get punished in America. There is nothing about modern society that is keeping women especially down except that feminist get women’s studies degrees, which allows you to bitch about how bad women have it, and absolutely nothing else. Admittedly, life is pretty bad for women in undeveloped countries. But, it’s pretty bad for men too.
4. Feminism has made things better for women.
Women have actually never been less happy (Here, here, here, here, and here). Maybe it’s because feminism expects women not to be women, but to adopt masculine traits. It doesn’t value women for what they do bring to the table, sweetness, gentility, care, family cohesion, complementation to masculine traits in a relationship. It tells them: go conquer the world—be a bitch, be an executive, don’t let a husband or children “hold you back.” Some psychologists hypothesize the unhappiness is due to increased demands on women. But men have increased demands too. It’s almost as if men are more capable of dealing with stress than women. Huh, who’da thunk it?
The simple answer is, no, they can’t. Women can’t compete with men in any category that requires—I’ll call it toughness. They don’t handle stress, they break down easier, and men will always be more physically durable than women. You may think, yeah, well but that doesn’t matter if they are working in an office. Not true. Men can and do work longer hours, take on more stress, and miss less days. Women do have areas they beat men. Men are routinely worse than women in communicative and literary arts: writing, language, art, and so on. Women are worldwide kinder, gentler and more compassionate. In other words, women are good at being women. Shocker, I know.
So why am I trashing feminism? Is it because I’m a misogynist pig? Well, obviously. Facts? Statistics? Universal observations? Who cares about that? It’s because I’m a misogynist pig, I’m sure.
But it’s also because I am a relentless truth seeker, and I am sick of men being told by popular culture that they are the root problem with the world. Without men this world would be pretty tragic. Men are the backbone of the family, women the muscle and sinew. The same goes for society. They work together.
It saddens me when men feel shamed into a hole. That’s why I don’t like man-caves. They are the epitome of retreat. Men saying “I’m going to hide my masculinity in a small place reserved for me.” You are letting the world cow you. Don’t hide your masculinity. Your house is yours. It’s your wife’s too and she needs her space and you don’t have the right to dominate her, but neither she you. You get to decorate the house too. So put that deer-head right on the wall. When your girlfriend watches “Sex and the City” or “Girls” and talks about how women are so abused, enlighten her and tell her to grow up.
Be proud of your hunter-gatherer instincts. Male aggression isn’t something that you need to undercut. Play flag football, box, play hockey, and Lacrosse (in public, no less!) and teach your boys that a scraped knee doesn’t merit tears. “Toughen up, kid!” How else are they going to grow up to be men if they don’t learn to take a few knocks and keep walking?
When a feminist complains that you’re being “sexist” say, “too bad, I recognize sexual dichotomies and I’m not going to pretend they don’t exist.” When you hear “a woman can do anything a man can do,” respond by saying, “except be men.” We are not the same. People weren’t stupid prior to the 1970’s. It was every day observation that led them to believe men could work longer, harder, deal with stress more thoroughly. Sorry, ladies, but guys are the stronger sex.
That doesn’t make women less valuable unless they define their worth by things that men are better at. This is why feminism hurts women; it requires women excel at things at which men are made to excel, and to reject things at which women are made to excel. Women are made to be women, sweet, artistic, creative, and above all complimentary to men. And that’s a good thing. Imagine how gross a world of all men would be: chili farts and jock strap smell. Ugh.
Don’t be afraid to be a man. You deserve a place you can call your own. You deserve to be allowed to be a man. We at HQ Atlanta want to help.
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